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Tuesday, March 16, 2010
So parents who know everything there was plus-minusnya. One of them, children experience an unnecessary dependency.
Many reasons why parents "forced" himself into the all-knowing parent. Every time a child asked, he tried to answer them all. In fact, if not, a little "up" too enggak problem. Wow! Here are the things that lay behind these attitudes:
- Want to be great or as the best figure in the eyes of children.
- Want to get respect from the child's excess.
- Want to attach to the child.
- Trying to protect children from inappropriate information, or not in accordance with the vision of a parent.
Hindering the child to step forward
Although a variety of reasons can be proposed and "right" to certain conditions, remains just a parent who always knew there was bad effects, among others:
* Possible inhibiting the formation of self-confidence and independence. He got used to rely on parents to answer the question / problem. In the long run, if the dependence is larger and larger, it is quite possible chances for success go so disturbed. Why? Why, the child always feel the need to get "support" full of his parents before deciding anything.
* There was a completely appropriate response. Because parents do not necessarily know all the things asked of children. Worse if the parents still want to be great and then answered carelessly, inappropriate, or even forced to write when feeling pressured.
* Omniscient attitude has become more severe when parents try to insert a particular motive to his satisfaction. In fact, it could be the answer even obscure the core knowledge of the child. For example, children questioned the origin of rain, then the father or mother answered carelessly, "the Lord wept see a brat." For a toddler, chances are considered correct answers (though for a while). Had not she thought always get the right answer for every question he asked?
* Turn off the power of creativity and critical thinking in solving the problem child. After all, he had been accustomed to live thank "bribe" his parents.
* Insights limited knowledge of the child so that the source only from the parents alone.
* Children become very dependent on parents. Do not be surprised if the next period of time the parents will still taken to meet the needs of children.
Information filtering
However, if the parents can "draw forth" of permissiveness are fitted him, a series of child benefit could be picked. Then, how to be wise in this case? Here are some tips that can be applied:
* When children ask questions, confirm what had been intended / asking. Do not rush to answer at length only because it was able to give the right answer.
* Ask the reason why he asked about the matter. It's important to hone a child's ability to reason.
* Once clear what the asking, then answer the question plainly children. To be sure, adjust with the development of age and give appropriate answers to the portion. Do not exaggerate or otherwise too crude. When 5-year olds asking why there is rain, for example, parents do not need to explain the chemical processes of the rain though he was a chemist. Enough scientific outline only.
* Explain how you can answer that question. For example by showing the encyclopedia that contains the answer. Thus, children understand that parents can not answer because avid reader of books. Within the child would be buried, if he would read the book, he would be "smart" father and mother.
* When the child shows admiration because you can answer the question, do not ge-er used to say, "Obviously dong, mama who first." The recommended is to show children about sources of information, such as television, books, and the Internet, as media learn to find answers to all questions.
* If you are not able to answer the questions of children, do not try and knowingly. Nothing to be ashamed to admit that you do not currently know. However, a direct offer to children to find the answers together in a book. If the answer is not in the source, there is no harm in asking other people who are competent in the field. In short, do not hesitate to learn and learn again. Especially if you're feeling more and more and more questions that children can not unanswered.
* As if the answer you gave before was wrong, do not hesitate to correct. Do not ever feel "ashamed" for having the wrong answer. Better than the child immediately correct the wrong information forever.
Benefits gained:
Of course, if shown in fits, omniscient attitude brings benefits, including:
- Parent and child relationship became closer because of the frequency of communication between them must be more intensive.
- Parents are more appreciated and considered smart, great, or even idolized child.
- Answer the child receives more than if the child selected search itself through friends or the internet.
- Access the child to solve problems more easily because parents are more accessible.
- Children get a sense of security because the parents are always there to tell what is needed and wanted to know.
- Parents are encouraged to learn and expand knowledge in order to continue to answer questions and help problem children.
- Implicitly, children become more motivated to learn to become "all-out" as parents.
Many reasons why parents "forced" himself into the all-knowing parent. Every time a child asked, he tried to answer them all. In fact, if not, a little "up" too enggak problem. Wow! Here are the things that lay behind these attitudes:
- Want to be great or as the best figure in the eyes of children.
- Want to get respect from the child's excess.
- Want to attach to the child.
- Trying to protect children from inappropriate information, or not in accordance with the vision of a parent.
Hindering the child to step forward
Although a variety of reasons can be proposed and "right" to certain conditions, remains just a parent who always knew there was bad effects, among others:
* Possible inhibiting the formation of self-confidence and independence. He got used to rely on parents to answer the question / problem. In the long run, if the dependence is larger and larger, it is quite possible chances for success go so disturbed. Why? Why, the child always feel the need to get "support" full of his parents before deciding anything.
* There was a completely appropriate response. Because parents do not necessarily know all the things asked of children. Worse if the parents still want to be great and then answered carelessly, inappropriate, or even forced to write when feeling pressured.
* Omniscient attitude has become more severe when parents try to insert a particular motive to his satisfaction. In fact, it could be the answer even obscure the core knowledge of the child. For example, children questioned the origin of rain, then the father or mother answered carelessly, "the Lord wept see a brat." For a toddler, chances are considered correct answers (though for a while). Had not she thought always get the right answer for every question he asked?
* Turn off the power of creativity and critical thinking in solving the problem child. After all, he had been accustomed to live thank "bribe" his parents.
* Insights limited knowledge of the child so that the source only from the parents alone.
* Children become very dependent on parents. Do not be surprised if the next period of time the parents will still taken to meet the needs of children.
Information filtering
However, if the parents can "draw forth" of permissiveness are fitted him, a series of child benefit could be picked. Then, how to be wise in this case? Here are some tips that can be applied:
* When children ask questions, confirm what had been intended / asking. Do not rush to answer at length only because it was able to give the right answer.
* Ask the reason why he asked about the matter. It's important to hone a child's ability to reason.
* Once clear what the asking, then answer the question plainly children. To be sure, adjust with the development of age and give appropriate answers to the portion. Do not exaggerate or otherwise too crude. When 5-year olds asking why there is rain, for example, parents do not need to explain the chemical processes of the rain though he was a chemist. Enough scientific outline only.
* Explain how you can answer that question. For example by showing the encyclopedia that contains the answer. Thus, children understand that parents can not answer because avid reader of books. Within the child would be buried, if he would read the book, he would be "smart" father and mother.
* When the child shows admiration because you can answer the question, do not ge-er used to say, "Obviously dong, mama who first." The recommended is to show children about sources of information, such as television, books, and the Internet, as media learn to find answers to all questions.
* If you are not able to answer the questions of children, do not try and knowingly. Nothing to be ashamed to admit that you do not currently know. However, a direct offer to children to find the answers together in a book. If the answer is not in the source, there is no harm in asking other people who are competent in the field. In short, do not hesitate to learn and learn again. Especially if you're feeling more and more and more questions that children can not unanswered.
* As if the answer you gave before was wrong, do not hesitate to correct. Do not ever feel "ashamed" for having the wrong answer. Better than the child immediately correct the wrong information forever.
Benefits gained:
Of course, if shown in fits, omniscient attitude brings benefits, including:
- Parent and child relationship became closer because of the frequency of communication between them must be more intensive.
- Parents are more appreciated and considered smart, great, or even idolized child.
- Answer the child receives more than if the child selected search itself through friends or the internet.
- Access the child to solve problems more easily because parents are more accessible.
- Children get a sense of security because the parents are always there to tell what is needed and wanted to know.
- Parents are encouraged to learn and expand knowledge in order to continue to answer questions and help problem children.
- Implicitly, children become more motivated to learn to become "all-out" as parents.
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